Category: Dating and Relationships
how do you know, if its true love or infatuation?
i cant describe it, you just know. when youre in love, youll find out firsthand.
THAT IS THE TOTAL TRUTH
Lust is all about possessing the person its very rarely about love,they must have you no matter what but only so no one else can..you are no longer an attractive prospect fora relationship,rather in the eyes of the person afflicted you are an article, an item, something to covet and own....
...Love is appreciating your S.O for who they are,letting them be themselves and seeing their annoying habits as cute idiosyncrasies,that amuse rather than anoy you..losing them may be a disaster but you would eventually recover, Lust can very easily develop into obsession and turn very nasty...
Well, love verses lust. Goblin summed it up, but I'll add my two sense for what it's worth. True love stands the test of time. If you really love someone, your feelings will only get stronger, and with lust, the person looses favor in your eyes, and when the "newness" where's off, they become a stranger. Love is exepting unconditionally the faultsw as well and the good aspects of the person. Lust, is always trying to change or mold the person in to what you think they should be. Goblin had a good point on this fact as well. Love is not posessive, and it leaves breatheing room. Lust is verry posessive, and the person won't let the other out of there sight for one second. That will kill any relationship fast.
When one loves you for who you are, not of what you have. That the person is willing to sacrafice everything for you. That the person cares non stop for you and treats you for who you are and who you want to be treated. It's not about the looks, money or sex. It's about devotion, strength, love, trust and equality. Understand love isn't a "fairy tale" so even though your significant other will argue with you once in a while or a fight will occur once, you will be able to talk it through, find the problem, fix it and move on so that further happenings of this problem might not occur. It's when the significant other will take care of you weather you are sick, poor, depressed, sad, upset, the support is there always. After a few years you'll come to grips of whats happening and understand that you've found true love.
The other half, when you know it's not love you'll find that the other person has decided to just slowly die away as if he never existed. That the person felt that you were lacking in something. That the person isn't who you wanted it to be. Etc. When you feel that this person isn't the one you want, or isn't showing love then it's time to move on.